Deciding to write your own vows is arguably, a tremendous undertaking. Within a few, short minutes, you somehow must sum up to your partner all your love, dreams and promises. Whilst initially it may seem daunting, the rewards are absolutely worth it. It is your opportunity to recount your adventure so far, to give your close friends and family an insight into what makes your relationship work, and most importantly, to share meaningful words with the person you love.

Allow yourself to be inspired. Traditional wedding vows are usually very structured, but don’t feel you have to mimic this in your own writing. We hope our following top tips offer a more contemporary guideline.

I love you…

Deservedly taking the number one spot, is making sure you say, “I love you”. As obvious as it may seem, in the challenge of penning your own vows, sometimes those three magic little words can go missing.

Photograph Courtesy of Rik Pennington.

For Better For Worse

Tell your partner you will be there through both thick and thin. You may be familiar with the traditional “through sickness and in health” and “for richer or for poorer”, however, when writing your own vows, try to add your own personal, and even honest, touch. All marriages will experience their peaks and troughs, the highs and lows, and, of course, you will want to communicate your intent to get through any challenges together.

Photograph Courtesy of Luna Weddings.


You’re in front of your closest friends and family, so who better to share your odd quirks and personal moments with. It is so much more engaging and interesting for your guests too if you are prepared to recall personal tales. Don’t, however, be afraid to share vows that are more real…it’s okay to talk about the highs and the lows. If you have already overcome a bumpy spot, you should express that. After all, it has made you stronger and helped shape your relationship.

Photograph Courtesy of Andy Mac Photography.

Making Promises

Vows are a promise, a serious commitment that you are making in front of an awful lot of witnesses. With that said, you don’t have to make it too heavy, and a combination of traditional style and more personal emotion can work very nicely. You can vow to stay by their side forever, but also be the one who discards the cat’s weekly catch!

Photograph Courtesy of Rebecca Maynes Photography.

Lean On Me…

Acknowledge the support you will need from those around you. You have invited all your friends and family to celebrate your wedding, but this is just the beginning of a whole new journey. You will still them just as much during your marriage. You should, therefore, look to acknowledge the role your friends and family will have in supporting you when times get tough.

Photograph Courtesy of Emma Barrow Photography.

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